Avui comparteixo una entrevista que he realitzat pel Leicester LGBT Centre on capturo les vivències de la Rosemary, una noia lesbiana que segueix lluitant per tindre una vida digna al Regne Unit.
Rosemary is an LGBTQ+ asylum seeker living in Leicester. She’s been through a lot on her journey to have the chance at starting a new life in a place where she can freely be herself. That journey seems to be far from over. As part of our #ShineBrightInColours campaign for this month, we are reflecting on LGBTQ+ asylum seekers and refugees, we thought it would be a great opportunity to hear her personal experience.
Where do you come from, Rosemary?
Why did you leave Nigeria?
I left my country in 2007 because of who I am. In Nigeria, you are supposed to have kids and get married. There are some things you can’t escape, so I had to have children with a man because of the pressure I had from my parents just so they could let me be. At first, I didn’t marry him because once you are with a man, he is in charge of your life and you are supposed to be together, so you can’t do what you used to when you were single.
You are part of the LGBT+ community, when did you find out?
When I was young I found out that I hated being with boys, a feeling that I didn’t understand or couldn’t explain back then. When I was in primary and secondary school, I wanted to be with girls but I didn’t recognise what my body was telling me. At the age of 12 or 13, when I was discovering my body, I didn’t want to grow up because I didn’t want to marry men because I didn’t like them.
However, you were forced to…
I was 32 when I had my first child and my mum was asking me when I was going to settle down. As I said, I had children but I didn’t want to get married. My mum insisted that I had to do the right thing or that I would bring shame to the family so we went to the registry.
Did your mother know about you being lesbian?